The Reflections essay in the March issue of AJN is called “The Balancing Act.” The author describes a situation she faced as an ICU nurse in which her efforts to keep a dying patient comfortable were complicated by a spouse’s reluctance to accept the inevitable. It’s often hard to advocate for a patient while honoring the emotional struggle of a close family member. Here’s the start of the essay.
I have just arrived to work in the ICU and am assigned a patient in respiratory distress. Her name is Darlene and her husband Tom is pacing the room. Within 10 minutes, he drinks three cups of coffee, ignoring the cot provided by the previous nurse so he could sleep next to Darlene. His wife has more than one cancer and both are growing. She left the hospital a week ago for hospice care, but has been readmitted after a decision by her husband to reattempt curative treatment.
Many ICU nurses will be familiar with some variant of the situation as it develops, in which a nurse must tread carefully in her efforts to fulfill her ethical responsibility to alleviate suffering despite the constraints imposed by family members. Sometimes, with patience, a way forward can emerge. You can read the entire essay, which is free access, by clicking here.—Jacob Molyneux, senior editor