‘I Didn’t Think It Would Happen to Me’
A daughter notices cognitive changes in her mother, a former geriatrics nurse.
Illustration by Janet Hamlin for AJN.
This month’s Reflections essay, “In Full Bloom,” is a gentle, humane exploration of what it’s like when an aging parent shows signs of cognitive decline. Author Diane Fraser deftly weaves memory, incident, and reflection together in this bittersweet one-page essay.
She describes her mother’s dawning realization of the hard reality of her own aging. “I’m old,” she said. “I’m really old.”
And then later, perhaps also alluding to her worsening dementia:
“I didn’t think it would happen to me. . . Those were my patients. This is me.”
There’s a family birthday party. An annual visit to a lilac festival where the author begins to find certain aspects of her mother’s behavior puzzling.
This is all described with lightness and respect. It’s just how it is, the author seems to suggest. We might as well make the best of it.
She remembers the sometimes bawdy stories […]



