Dissonance and Harmony: Balancing Nursing and Home Life During the Holidays
Between worlds.
There is nothing quite like the holiday season in a culture obsessed with happiness at all costs to make me feel the complexity of navigating back and forth between work and home life as a pediatric ICU nurse.
Home life as a mother to two young children, wife, friend, and community citizen takes on an intense pace from just before Thanksgiving through the new year. I am coordinating celebrations with family and friends, keeping tabs on the kids’ school holiday programs, addressing Christmas cards, and deftly dodging BOGO promotional emails day and night. Life feels boundless with possibilities for activity and opportunity.
I arrive at work and enter the room of my patient, whose life has been brought to a screeching halt. She lies sedated, restrained by lines and tubes, barely oriented to day versus night. If not for the holiday decorations that we put up around the unit, there may be no indication of what season it is.
What is cheerful for me to anticipate at home during the holidays may be potentially disheartening for my patients and their families to consider. I can leave the hospital at will. They cannot. I am sensitive to this fact, and my demeanor when I talk about the holidays at work […]