Healing Words: A Critical Care Book Club

I was always a reader. The days of the Scholastic book fair during elementary school were among my favorites. Although it doesn’t appear in my CV, my first job was working in the school store. With every shift I worked, the smell of blank sheets of paper, the thrill of a pencil awaiting to be sharpened to that perfect point, or the ballpoint and ink pens in a rainbow of colors stole my hard-earned quarters.

‘Is it on the NCLEX?’

But reading novels during nursing school was just plain hard. There were competing priorities, a brain brimming with vital information, and sheer exhaustion at the end of the day. Assigned readings presented an overwhelming amount of contextual information. And then there was the constant attention to evidence, protocols, and clinical practice guidelines. The “need to know” information took priority; the sheer pleasure of losing oneself in a story—whether novel or memoir—was lost.

During my senior year, in an advanced illness course, my professors assigned a novel-style memoir, Bed Number Ten by Sue Baier. To this day, I can remember the reactions to the assignment: “A book? Who has time for that?” “Are we going to be tested on this book?”

Or, most importantly: “Is it on the NCLEX?”

The influence of a patient’s story […]

In Nursing, What Does It Really Mean to Trust Your Gut?

The March Reflections essay in AJN touches on several big questions:

  • How can you tell if a patient presents an immediate suicide risk?
  • What do nurses really mean when they speak of ‘trusting your gut’?
  • And what are the limits of advocating for a patient when a nurse finds herself in potential opposition to a physician?

by Annelisa Ochoa for AJN

In “Mr. Blue and His Six Cats” (free until April 1), nurse Mariya Rader vividly and economically describes a series of tense events that occurred one shift in the ER where she worked early in her career.

The clock is ticking: should the patient brought in by EMS be discharged because he denies suicidal intent? We follow her persistent search for the right course of action through a series of encounters with the caring team of paramedics who brought him to the ER and are familiar with his ways, the inexperienced new resident physician, and the patient himself.

Trust your gut?

The author had always heard nurses say to ‘trust your gut.’ But what did it really mean?

Remember, I was still relatively new to nursing; I hadn’t yet learned to depend on myself. But I had this sick feeling deep down that I couldn’t […]

Even in an Unimaginable Crisis, Nature Heals

“Eleven-year-old Olivia’s parents were ‘done,’ had reached their limit of bad news, and refused to enter the conference room. They didn’t want more information or what they perceived as pressure to withdraw life support.”

The hardest decision.

by Janet Hamlin for AJN

These words in the opening paragraph of this month’s Reflections column,”Little Sparrow,” describe a situation that will be instantly recognizable to many nurses, especially those who regularly work with people who have suffered severe head injuries or other central nervous system trauma. These two short sentences encapsulate the terrible crisis that develops when a tragic outcome seems inevitable to staff—while family members, in shock, struggle to absorb information and make decisions.

A healing garden.

In the essay, which will be free until February 20, Elaine Meyer, PhD, RN, describes her approach to one such family. While the parents of the seriously injured young girl pray for a miracle, staff are distressed because they feel they are inflicting unnecessary suffering on the child. […]

2019-02-05T08:19:55-05:00February 5th, 2019|family, Nursing, nursing stories|1 Comment

Self-Disclosure in the Nurse-Patient Relationship

“How much of ourselves should we share with our patients?”

Illustration by Jennifer Rodgers for AJN

The ‘therapeutic use of self.’

Early nursing theorists wrote about how the “therapeutic use of self” helps us to forge close working relationships with our patients. Today we talk about authenticity, and it’s been noted that “the essence of nursing care comes from bringing our authentic selves to the nurse-patient relationship.”

We each develop a nursing “style,” weaving our own identities into the way we relate to patients and families. But where do the parts of ourselves that are very much “us” but not immediately evident to others come into the picture?

“Would a single mother hesitate to share her story of adopting a child without
a male partner? Would a widower refrain from correcting the assumption that
his spouse is still alive?. . . . I am compelled by the belief that sharing truth in either
scenario would enhance the authenticity of the relationship. Nevertheless, I remain
reluctant to correct my patients’ misperceptions of my family life.”

To disclose or not to disclose?

In this month’s Reflections column, “A Lie by Omission?“, nurse practitioner Charles Yingling takes a thoughtful look at what we choose to share with our patients, and what […]

A Few Notable Nurse Voices of 2018

A wealth of nursing voices.

I’m always amazed at the number of powerful, wise, courageous, funny nurse voices we have a chance to publish on this blog. Looking back over the past year, here are the links to a few posts by working nurses that stood out as worth another look.

Honoring the Moral Concerns of Caregivers Afraid of Giving Morphine

“‘I told her I’d take care of her,’ he whispers. ‘She took care of me. Now it’s my turn. I made her a promise. I don’t want to do the wrong thing.’”

A Day in the Emergency Room for a Nurse Who Loves Her Job

“I put my shoes on in the car like always. The shoes never go inside, as they bear remnants of the day before. I walk in to meet my tribe. We laugh off the previous day’s challenges as we start over.”

Comforting Our Patients: The Importance of Well-Chosen Words

“There’s seldom an opportunity to edit or revise on the floor of a nursing unit. Words cannot be unsaid.”

The School Nurse

“They march into my heart like little soldiers. There are lads and lassies, rich and poor, sporting bling and brawn.”

Reexamining Resilience

“I find that I have been so transformed […]

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