Permission to Grieve: A Poet Addresses the Unmapped Territory of Pregnancy Loss

You were so new, still more dream than person.

A poetry submission hits a personal chord.

photo by Susanne Nilsson/flickr

As the column coordinator for AJN’s Art of Nursing, which publishes poetry, flash fiction, and visual art related to health and health care, many poems cross my desk. I always appreciate the creativity and emotion in these poems, even when they aren’t quite a fit for our journal. And then there are the ones that not only fit, but that strike a personal chord and stay with me.

“Carrying,” by Katie Manning, PhD, MA, is one such poem. (Click on the PDF for the best version.) It immediately touched me because of the powerful way it described a sensitive topic: pregnancy loss. As a mother who lost a pregnancy in my second trimester, I found myself nodding with tears in my eyes at her elegant descriptions of grief and loss.

The poem received universal praise from our peer reviewers, and when I wrote to Manning to tell her we’d accepted it, I added a personal note about my own experience (something I had never done as an editor). We exchanged words of comfort and spoke about how the topic is not nearly discussed enough.

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2020-03-16T12:16:01-04:00March 16th, 2020|patient experience, women's health|2 Comments
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Putting Down Her Burden: A Patient’s Final Choice

‘goodbye, inhaler!’

Chronic illness as a Sisyphean bargain.

Sisyphus was a legendary king of ancient Greece who was condemned by the gods to eternally roll a rock up a hill, only to have it roll down again each time as it neared the top.

Many people with chronic illness today may be able to relate. Chronic illness can mean years or even decades of worsening symptoms and ever more complex medication and treatment regimens, side effects of treatments, treatments for side effects, monetary pressures, activity limitations, a sense of separateness from the legions of the merely ‘walking worried’ around us, and the subtle pervasive tension and vigilance of never quite knowing what might come next.

The ironies of advanced medicine.

The assumption, of course, is that all the effort is worth it. And it is: many of us benefit from, or know people who benefit from, drugs that keep them alive when 50 or 100 years ago they would have died long ago, or keep them able to walk, or breathe without a struggle, or sleep without excruciating nerve pain or the itching of terrible skin sores, and so on. Life has always been about compromise; these are simply new refinements of a universal equation.

2020-01-23T10:03:01-05:00January 23rd, 2020|Nursing, nursing stories, patient experience|1 Comment
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A Sense of Meaninglessness and Disconnectedness: Addressing Spiritual Distress Among Cancer Survivors

“I lost a critical year of my life, and now I can’t move forward. I feel stuck. My life is passing me by, and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do anymore.”

This quote is from a composite case example that focuses on the spiritual distress experienced by some cancer survivors. Treatment may be over with, and the prognosis may be excellent. All signs may point to the probability of a cancer-free future. But after confronting a potentially life-threatening diagnosis, many survivors struggle with a sense of meaninglessness or disconnectedness.

In “Assessing and Managing Spiritual Distress in Cancer Survivorship” in the January issue of AJN, Timiya Nolan and colleagues explore the concept of spiritual distress and its impact on a person’s quality of life.

A topic that often goes unaddressed.

The authors emphasize the need for clinicians to actively screen for this problem and learn how to initiate conversations with patients. Clinicians are often reluctant to raise the issue of spiritual well-being, and thus wait for survivors to voice any spiritual concerns. While this approach is effective in some cases, if the conversation never occurs, the survivor’s spiritual needs may be unmet. […]

2020-01-16T10:15:37-05:00January 16th, 2020|Nursing, patient experience, Patients|0 Comments
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Morphine in Hospice Care: Why Family Members May Resist Its Use

Underlying his concerns was a strong sense of moral responsibility. He was his mother’s protector. He was her voice. He had a duty to keep her safe…

Morphine’s essential place in hospice care.

When I began work in a hospice, I quickly came to see morphine as a wonder drug. It was used so much more effectively in palliative care than with the med-surg patients I had cared for in the hospital!

Morphine can be given via multiple routes, it’s easy to titrate, its side effects are well-known and therefore easy to manage, and it can bring dramatic pain relief as well as markedly improved breathing.

It was common for us to admit patients to hospice whose pain had never been controlled, and they were often dumbfounded at how easily their pain could be managed. The proper medical use of morphine was literally life changing for them.

Addressing family members’ concerns.

As a result of my hospice experience, I’ve always been a big believer in patient and family education to debunk myths and highlight the optimal uses of this drug. And yet education alone isn’t always what family members need when morphine is prescribed for their loved ones. Especially when the patient is at home and it’s a family member, not a nurse, managing the […]

2019-11-12T15:36:45-05:00August 21st, 2019|family experience, patient experience|3 Comments
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A Health Care Proxy and an Act of Moral Imagination

“What would Joanna have wanted?” the ICU fellow (Dr. Smith) asked Sam, Joanna’s nephew and health care proxy, for the second time this week. Sam considered the question, furrowed his brow, and said, “I still don’t know, doc.”

The human costs of indecision.

Uncertainty can at times be better than false certainty. This may even be so, up to a point, when a loved one is on life-support and subject to invasive and painful procedures. It takes time to absorb the reality of a situation.

But any nurse can tell you that, at some point, indecision becomes a decision in itself, one that can lead to many unwished-for consequences.

Seemingly unanswerable questions.It

The quotation at the start of this post is from this month’s Reflections essay, “What Joanna Would Have Wanted” (free until July 15). The story, by nurse Jennifer Chicca, MS, RN, evokes the overwhelming sense of responsibility faced by a thoughtful young man in the role of health care proxy to a beloved aunt.

How is possible to be sure what someone would want, or not want, when their end-of-life wishes have not been clearly spelled out ahead of time? […]

2019-07-01T15:50:47-04:00July 1st, 2019|Nursing, nursing stories, patient experience|1 Comment
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