End-of-Life Conversations at the 11th Hour
A problem all too familiar to nurses.
How often have we nurses talked to friends, family members, or each other about the importance of making end-of-life decisions well before that decision becomes critical? We see so many deaths that come only after extended and often avoidable suffering, it’s all many of us can do to keep from grabbing a family member’s hand and whispering, “Let her go!” At home, our families are used to hearing us say again and again, “Do not let me die like that!”
If we work in a hospital, chances are that we are confronted over and over again with trying to help families make “11th hour” decisions that will affect how their loved ones die. How do we broach the subject, when time is so short?
Trust prepares the ground.
This month’s Reflections article, “Difficult Conversations,” isn’t a primer to walk us through these conversations, but it offers an example of how we can take our cue from events or changes in the patient’s condition to raise the topic of the inevitable. Author Vanessa Arroyo illustrates how, after we’ve developed a relationship with patient and family and earned their trust, it may become possible to ask the […]