Through Song, a Nurse’s Renewed Connection to An Ailing Mother
Illustration by Barbara Hranilovich for AJN.
Millions of Americans are now acting in some capacity as caregivers for an ailing parent. This month’s Reflections column is by a nurse who describes a moment in time as she helps to care for her home-bound and dying mother. Her mother remains, on occasion, as judgmental and offputting as the mother of her childhood.
But in such cases, there’s little to gain by dwelling on old disappointments and hurts—and in this instance, there are good memories as well.
The common language of song.
These good memories are primarily associated with her mother’s love of and talent for singing. “Moon River and Mom” describes this nurse’s experience of tending her mother’s leg wound as the Meals on Wheels man visits, and what happens afterward when the author prompts her mother to sing. […]